Processional
Blessing of the Chuppah
Surrounded by loved ones whose joy and prayers are with you, you stand at this Chuppah, a symbol of your new home. Its four sides are open, symbolizing the importance of community and of participation in each other's lives. Friends and family fill the home. May your home be a shelter against the storms, a haven of peace, a stronghold of faith and love.
Blessing over the wine:
This cup of wine is symbolic of the cup of life. As you share the cup of wine, you undertake to share all that the future may bring. All the sweetness life's cup may hold for you should be sweeter because you drink it together; whatever drops of bitterness it may contain should be less bitter because you share them.
Blessed is the Lord our God, Ruler of the Universe, Creator of the fruit of the vine.
Baruch Atah Adonai Eloheinu Melech Ha-Olam, boreh p'ri ha-gafen.
(Doug takes a sip of Wine and pass the cup to Naomi to take a sip)
Shehecheyanu Prayer:
The Shehecheyanu is a joyous blessing that is recited at the arrival of any long awaited occasion (and as Greg, Doug’s brother told me it’s been 37 years)!
This blessing speaks to our thankfulness for three parts of life:
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1st, for life itself and the people who brought us into the world.
1st, for life itself and the people who brought us into the world. ·2nd, for the opportunities and people who helped raise us and mold us into the people we are today,
2nd, for the opportunities and people who helped raise us and mold us into the people we are today, ·3rd, for this very moment of joy and celebration with our families and close friends
3rd, for this very moment of joy and celebration with our families and close friends Blessed are You, O God, for giving us life, sustaining us and allowing us to reach this joyous time.
Baruch Atah Adonai Eloheinu Melech Ha-Olam shecheyanu v'kiy'manu v'higyanu lazman hazeh.
Reading #1 (Call up _______ )
Always Love Each Other
If you can always be as close and happy as today,
Yet be secure enough to grow and change along the way.
If you keep for you alone your love as husband and wife,
Yet find the time to share your joy with others in your life.
If you can be as one and walk through marriage hand in hand,
Yet still support the goals and dreams that each of you have planned.
If you dare to always go your separate ways together,
Then all the wonder of today will stay with you forever.
Reading #2 from the Seven Blessings~ ( Call up _________ and ______________ )
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May you be generous and giving with each other.
May your sense of humor and playful spirit always continue to enliven your relationship.
May you always respect the diversity of humankind
May you act with compassion to those less fortunate and with responsibility to the communities of which you are a part.
May you appreciate and complement each other's differences.
May you always share yourselves openly with your friends and family.
May your home be a haven of blessing and peace.
Song & Katubah (Jewish Wedding Certificate) Signing
(Comments on the significance of the Ketubah
The text of modern Ketubahs have been adapted to fit with the modern understanding of marriage as a partnership based in love, respect and commitment, not legality. It is customary that the bride and groom sign the Ketubah either before or during the ceremony”.
__________, ________and 2 witnesses sign the Ketubah. At the same time as song .
VOWS
I, _____, choose you, _____, to be my wife, to have and hold from this day forward, secure in the knowledge that you will be my constant friend, my faithful partner, and my one true love. I promise to share with you in times of joy as in times of trouble; to talk and to listen; to honor and to appreciate you; and to build our dreams together, while allowing you to pursue and grow with yours. I will love you, respect you, laugh with you, and to soothe your tears. I will share my life openly and honestly with you all the days of my life.
I, _____, choose you, _____, to be my husband, to have and hold from this day forward, secure in the knowledge that you will be my constant friend, my faithful partner, and my one true love. I promise to share with you in times of joy as in times of trouble; to talk and to listen; to honor and to appreciate you; and to build our dreams together, while allowing you to pursue and grow with yours. I will love you, respect you, laugh with you, and to soothe your tears. I will share my life openly and honestly with you all the days of my life.
RINGS : We have all witnessed your exchange of vows. Now is the time to affirm your love and commitment by exchanging your rings. These rings are tokens of your union and of your love. Wedding rings are regarded as fitting symbols of marriage because they are fashioned to have neither a beginning nor an end, signifying the eternal and infinite nature of the bride and groom's love for each other. In wearing these rings, you proclaim your intent to reflect this loving relationship with one another.
RINGS CONTINUED TO GROOM
(Kal to have ----- and ------ repeat short phrases after him):
As you, -----, place this ring on -----'s finger, say to her these words:
With this ring, I thee wed. I take you to be my wife, to have and to hold, to love and to cherish, to honor and respect, forsaking all others. I promise to love you and care for you, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse, from this day forward.
RINGS CONTINUED TO BRIDE
As you, -----, place this ring on -----'s finger, say to him these words:
With this ring, I thee wed. I take you to be my husband, to have and to hold, to love and to cherish, to honor and respect, forsaking all others. I promise to love you and care for you, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse, from this day forward.
In keeping with the declaration you have made, you have given and received these rings. They are a token of your union, a symbol of enduring love. May they remind you that your lives are to be bound together by devotion and faithfulness.
Conclusion
You have now affirmed before God, your families, and your friends your bond of love and commitment. You have come from different backgrounds. You have walked different paths. You are different individuals. Your love has transcended these differences. In the years before you, may the richness of the traditions that have nurtured you enhance and brighten your lives and others' as you help to create and shape the future.
Pronouncement of Marriage & Breaking the Glass
You have both joined voluntarily in this ceremony of marriage, and have been formally united as husband and wife in the presence of your family and friends. As you have declared openly your clear intentions to be considered before all the world as a married couple, and have exchanged rings and vows attesting thereto, by the power invested in me by the state of Florida, it is my pleasure to pronounce you husband and wife.
We conclude the ceremony with the traditional breaking of the glass. The breaking of the glass, like the commitment you make today, is irrevocable and permanent. As the groom breaks the glass, I invite everyone to shout, "Mazel Tov" which means "Congratulations and Good Luck!"
You may now kiss the bride!!
Interfaith Blended Ceremony
Announcement
This wedding ceremony, which we are about to witness and celebrate, is a blend of two Great traditions in acknowledging the One G-d.
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Dearly beloved, we are gathered today in the sight of G-d and in the face of this company to join together this man ______ and this woman _____ in holy matrimony, which is an honorable estate and not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, discreetly, and in respect for G-d. Into this holy estate these persons have come before us to be joined together.
If anyone can show just cause why they may not lawfully be joined together, let him now speak, or else forever hold his peace."
After a short pause the Officiate continues: I require and charge you both that if either of you know any reason why you may not be lawfully joined together in matrimony, you now confess it."
Who gives this woman to be married to this man? I DO
Blessing of the wine
The blessing over the wine is an eternal sign of creation and renewal. We raise the cup and say the Traditional Blessing of the wine.
Baruch ata Adonai Eloheinu melech haolom. Bo ray pere Haguff in.
Blessed is the Lord our God, Ruler of the universe, Creator of the fruit of the vine.
(mans name) _______ take a sip of the wine and pass the cup to (Woman’s name) __________. Place cup on table.
Traditional Rabbis Prayer
A Prayer for the Bride & Groom Please all stand.
Lord our G-d, King of the Universe, send your blessing upon these thy servants, this man and this woman, that they faithfully live together and that they may keep their covenant that they are making with you this day.
May God bless you and guard you.
May God shine the Divine light upon you and be good to you.
May God grant you both happiness and peace.
Place the woman’s right hand into the mans right hand
Do you, (Mans Name)_____, take (Woman’s Name) ____, to be my lawfully wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health; in love and respect, till death do us part.
I DO
Do you, (Woman’s Name) _____, take (Mans Name) _____, to be my lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health; in love and respect, till death do us part.
I DO
Reading – 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, It is not rude, it is not self-seeking.
It is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil, bit rejoices with truth.
Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preservers.
Love never fails
Exchange of Rings
The wedding ring is the outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual grace, signifying to all the uniting of this man and woman in a holy marriage. The circle of the ring symbolizes eternity. It has no beginning or end. May the joy and happiness of this day also never end.
The Officiate gives the woman's ring to the man and instructs him to place it on the third finger of her left hand.
Then the Officiate asks the man to “_____ repeat after me: 'with this ring, I thee Wed." (according to the covenant of Abraham”)*Note: If this is a double ring ceremony, the notary now gives the 'man's ring to the woman, and instructs her to place it on the third finger of his left hand,
Then the notary asks the woman to _____ repeat after me: 'with this ring, I thee wed." (according to the covenant of Abraham”)
The Officiate now joins their right hands together and says,
"Those whom God has joined together, let no man put asunder."
Chupa
This covered structure is called “a Chupa” The chupa is an open sided structure that represents a home that is always open for hospitality.
The Breaking of the glass goes back so many of generations that no one knows the true beginnings of the tradition. However in generations long past, when an engagement contract was agreed to a ceramic plated was broken to seal the agreement. However a ceramic plate can be glued back to gather and used again.
Just like engagements can be broken and another engagement may be able to take place. But smashing of a glass is an act that cannot be put back in to its original condition.
Stomp on Glass
"Mozelt Tov" and Congratulations.
“ Because _____ and _____ sworn to holy wedlock, and have witnessed the same before G-d and this company, and have pledged their loyalties one to the other and the giving of rings. By the power invested in me by the State of Florida, I now pronounce that they are husband and wife.
You may now kiss the bride.
ROSE CEREMONY –
As a first gift to each other as Husband and Wife,_____ and ____ will give to each other a single long stem Red Rose as a symbol of there everlasting love and fidelity.
A red rose is selected because through out all the generations the red rose represents one of the deepest true emotions a human can express.
Therefore I instruct you that where ever you live. Select a single special space in your home. So whenever either of you get upset with the other, and your emotion gets in the way of good judgment, and you cant say the words. Then place a single long stem red rose in that special place. And that will show that above all words and deeds, you love and commitment is still intact.
Now exchange the roses.
The new family will now present the roses to someone very special to them.
Bride & Groom now gives the roses and returns to there place with Officiate.
Ladies & Gentleman, presenting for the first time Mr. & Mrs. ____________ .
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INTERFAITH & JEWISH WEDDINGS
Kalmun Lee Ordained Clergy.
SAMPLE WEDDINGS
